Yesterday was my first day home for Spring Break, and naturally I came home, and rolled around on the sofa with my (baby) sister Rachael.
This is the picture you should imagine:
I come home, stick my iPhone into the charger
Roll around and play tickle wars with Rachie
Tickle her some more and body slam her (in a nice way)
Check my phone because I got a text
She suddenly gets up, and says to me:
Is technology your family? You love it so much.
What? What? When did she grow up and become so observant and philosophical and intelligent and a grown up (child)?
You like your phone as family more than your flesh family.
You like your phone more than ME, and I’m your blood-flesh-real-alive family! (Mind you, she actually used those words, but perhaps in a different combination)
Then I started pestering her and poking her, to get out what she was thinking. At this point, she’s still laughing and teasing me about my use of technology, but in every single region of my brain I am screaming NO because this is not what I wanted her to feel at all, not even close. If anything, I wanted to show her that technology wasn’t that important. Apparently I failed miserably.
Rachie, do you really, really, REALLY believe that I like my phone more than you?! That’s so silly.
Yeah, sometimes you’re always texting people and checking your email! You don’t read to me anymore.
At this point I’m like girl please I just got home… Of course I haven’t had time to read to you. But these are excuses and justifications, and my brain is still on red alert.
Just kidding, I think you love me more. A LOT more. Like this much! (Waves her arms back and forth in a huge circle)
And a sigh of relief… But not reassured, no, not at all.
We think that children have a technology obsession issue, but adults (and older siblings) do too, in a manner much more detrimental for our younger family members… Maybe the reason that kids in our society resort to technology for comfort and communication is because they’re not getting it from us. A little less technology wouldn’t hurt. It really wouldn’t.
This was so traumatizing to me, in the sense that I failed as an older sister and that this is what is happening in society. To add to this, the news this morning discussed a new study that proved that families where parents used their technology more frequently in the house had children who acted up more, in order to receive attention from their parents.
Why is this happening? Why? Why can’t we learn a balance? Technology was created to benefit and assist people, not to do otherwise.
Just some rambles and thoughts…